Ep5: The Lies You Didn’t Know You Were Living

Have you ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or “off” — and couldn’t explain why?

Sometimes it’s not our circumstances that are holding us back.
It’s not the job, the finances, or the timing.

It’s the lie we’ve unknowingly agreed to.

🎭 The Most Dangerous Lies Are the Ones We Don’t Recognize

Not all lies scream at you.
Some whisper.

They sound like:

  • “You’re behind.”

  • “You’re not enough.”

  • “You’ll never change.”

  • “It’s safer not to try.”

And because they’re familiar, they become believable.

We walk these mental paths so often, they turn into highways.
That’s not just poetic — it’s neurological. Your brain literally builds neural pathways around repeated thoughts. It’s called neuroplasticity — and it’s how our habits of thinking become hardwired.

🛣 The Cattle Path: A Mental Metaphor

In a powerful old poem titled The Calf-Path by Sam Walter Foss, a young calf carves a random, crooked trail through the woods.
Over time, others follow that trail — not because it’s the best way… but because it’s the only path they see.

That’s what our minds do, too.
We follow old trails — patterns built from past pain, fear, or insecurity — without stopping to ask, “Is this true?”

🔍 The 90% Truth Trap

The lies we believe often sound almost true.

They disguise themselves as “just being realistic.”
They echo a comment from childhood or criticism from a boss.

And because they’re close to truth — we never challenge them.

But unchecked, they shape your identity.

“Your beliefs don’t have to be true to shape your life. They just have to be yours.”

🔁 Rewrite the Script: From Lie to Truth

The transformation begins with this practice:

  1. Name the lie. What’s the thought that keeps coming up?

  2. Flip the script. Write a truth that confronts and replaces it.

  3. Repeat it daily. Not because it’s magic — but because repetition rewires the mind.

Examples:

  • Lie: “I always mess things up.”
    Truth: “I’ve made mistakes, but I’m learning and growing.”

  • Lie: “I missed my chance.”
    Truth: “If I’m still breathing, I’m still becoming.”

  • Lie: “I’ll never get past this.”
    Truth: “I’m not stuck — I’m in progress.”

🎙 Real Stories That Prove It’s Possible

In the episode, we share three powerful true stories:

  • Oprah Winfrey, once told she was “too emotional for TV,” who leaned into empathy and became one of the most influential media voices in history.

  • Jim Carrey, who watched his father fail at a “safe” job, wrote himself a $10M check before he ever made it — and redefined what was possible.

  • Bethany Hamilton, who lost her arm at 13 in a shark attack and returned to surfing in under a month. Her mantra?

    “I don’t need easy. I just need possible.”

🧠 Final Thought

You don’t have to believe everything you think.

You’re not your past.
You’re not your fear.
You’re not the lie.

You’re a story still being written.

So today — tear up the old script.
Write a new one.
And let truth lead the way.

🎧 Want to Hear More?

Listen to the full episode of The Unshakable Edge:
👉 [Link to Episode 5]

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